That Ain’t Nunya Business!
by: Cris Corzine-McCloskey
Last week we talked about the value of saying no and setting healthy boundaries as a form of stress reduction. But learning to say no is only the first step. If you want a genuinely stress free life, you have to learn to mind your own business.
With my career, I think of myself as a State Licensed Secret Keeper, and I know a lot of peoples business. Part of my self-care is to make sure I don’t take their business home with me, or I wouldn’t be able to sleep at night. I have discovered, through God’s grace, I can love them, pray for them, and release them to the One who has the power to heal them. Once I leave my office, their business does not go home with me. In other words, He’s taught me how to know someone’s business without making it my own.
He has also taught me a personal mantra when I start worrying about what they think or feel about me, and that is “nunya.” Nunya is my slang term for none of your business (as in, “that ain’t none ya’ business, Cris”). This silly phrase helps me not to pick up worries about what others think, feel, or do in their personal lives. I trust God will tell me when to pray for them, but other than that, their lives and what they think and do is truly none of my business.
While figuring out the lives of others are not our business is elementary, but figuring out what is our business is not so easy.
Last night I was thinking about Caring Counseling, and the what’ if’s that might occur from recent changes. In the midst of it all, I suddenly realized that tomorrow is none of my business. Even though it involves me, and will happen to me, tomorrow is still none of my business.
I know that because the Bible tells me so. Jesus said, “Do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.” In other words, He is telling me all my worries about tomorrow are not my business. He’s got me. Today is the day He has given me, and my business is to know what He wants.
Jesus exemplified this when He said, “My food is to do what God wants! He is the one who sent me, and I must finish the work that he gave me to do.” Jesus believed His business and the Father’s business were the same. That is how we are supposed to live our lives — concerning ourselves with the Father’s business, one day at a time.
What would your life be like if you woke every morning and viewed it as the only one you have, and you might see the Father the next day? Bet you wouldn’t worry about the neighbor’s grass or the silly political disputes on the news. Instead, you would concern yourself with the beauty of the day and pleasing your Father. Bet it would be a great day.
That is God’s prescription on how to live a stress-free life. When you discover something about someone, it’s not yours to gossip about or worry over. It’s not your business. Don’t stick your nose in it! Pray for them instead, then trust that He has it, and release it to Him. That way, you are helping them and helping yourself in the process. You are learning how to do the will of the Father. Now, take that same principle and apply it liberally throughout your life, and watch the stress melt away. If you get tempted to start worrying, remember, what happens in other peoples lives, and your tomorrows, are nunya business anyway!